I have a photograph on my Tumblr blog that states “what if the one that got away came back?” Ten years ago, heck three years ago, a statement like this would have made me swoon. I keep it on my blog now to remind me not to be a fool. He is never coming back and if he got away, well, maybe it was for the best. Forget chasing and dodge that bullet.
I’ve smartened up because I’ve learnt the hard way that pining over something in the past is so completely useless. It’s probably the very opposite of being productive and you end up not loving individuals around you like they so deserve. But I see the pull. The past is so much easier to figure out because it’s already happened, the present is what you’re working through now. The bigger picture is mostly granted with experience but the good news is that we almost always learn to live with whatever plays out.
Don’t worry, being less naive has not made a cynic out of me. When I say that he’s never coming back, I just mean maybe not this lifetime. If you’re one to believe in karma like I do, you probably also subscribe to the idea that souls are somehow linked. Now this is not soulmate with a capital S where there is only one person in the world who can make you happy. How absurd is that, especially when you are growing everyday? No, I believe that you only get that surge of energy when you meet someone, when your entire body reacts towards them because you’ve met before. I believe that a couple of us circle each other lifetime after lifetime and the relationships are not always romantic. Sometimes you’re siblings, platonic friends or enemies and because of your karma it might take a few tries to actually be together.
I’ve felt that seismic jolt a couple of times like I’m sure we all have. There’s happiness in knowing that we’ll probably meet again no?
“See you next lifetime brother.” If you watch Lost you’ll get the significance of that statement. God, Desmond was my favourite.