At the age of 15 my cousin K asked pointblank if I wanted to look dirty or good. This was during the grunge-phase of the mid nineties when everyone bought from thrift shops and actually compromised aspects of their personal hygiene for the sake of style. I thought about it and decided on the latter.
My relationship with fashion has always been touch and go. There were definite points in my past when I wondered if it was a phase and actually not worth spending that much time or money on. You know how many girls goes through a horse or ballet phase when their bedroom walls and dear diaries are plastered with these images? Well, I’ve come to the realization that working on one’s style is not like admiring a ballerina or a thoroughbred. It’s a life-long project that can be one of the most meaningful ones that you take on.
I never understood why people need an entourage to shop. I’ve always preferred to shop alone. It stems from the fact that after decades of trial and error I know which stores work best with the strengths of my body. I’m also particular about the quality of the products because I mostly choose classic pieces that I hope will last me several years. Therefore, I am often able to spend 30 minutes on a trip because I enter a total of 3 stores and do not even look at others. I guess you could classify this as being rigid and it’s true, I won’t discover new looks as easily. I rather frame it as not wasting my time when something works so well already. Now, this comes back to why I do not bring companions. Most people do not shop with a time clock. I also believe that fashion is all about how you carry yourself. That’s why when you’re more self-conscious about your body, looking in the mirror can be a trying experience. But, if you feel that you’ve chosen a piece that reflects who you are then you will feel beautiful, be beautiful. No one needs to support that type of feeling because it comes from within.
Now, this is what makes sartorial approaches so enjoyable. Other parts of caring for our appearance aren’t always the most pleasant. No one likes to visit their waxist but many of us still take that long walk. But with fashion, it’s an ongoing project where you get to choose and strategize. It’s beautiful.
We never work alone on these endeavours but instead constantly draw from the social world. Since my cousin’s pertinent enquiry I’ve been inspired by the New England aesthetic of clean lines and preppy conventions. I still believe in the simplicity of this approach but currently am inspired more by the French style. It’s less puritanical. If you’ve read any of my other posts I’m sure you don’t find this particularly surprising. The lines are still there but they are cut more precisely and offer a bit more bold playfulness. An example of a store that provides this look is “Club Monaco.” I’m pretty sure that every article of clothing this company produces is sewn by little fairies or magic mice. They are out of this world. So slip into something that allows you to take on the often heavy notes in this life, something that will give you the confidence to face it all with grace.
2 thoughts on “Sartorial”
Absolutely, you have to slip into something that makes you feel wonderful and that is really all that is important. It takes some women an entire lifetime to get to this point. Be happy no matter what place you are in too! Sometimes when you are in transition you don’t enjoy your body as it is happening but enjoy all the phases you go through and congratulate yourself as milestones are achieved.
Definitely agree that it’s so important to love yourself in all shapes and forms and to recognize all the markers of life that remain on your body. I love yoga because so many yogis will ask you to be grateful that you were able to practice today and that your body allowed you this transcendence. I try to think of this even when my body allows me to live each day the way I like to. Thanks for your support!